A partnership between StoneBridge Church & Mosaics of Mercy

Equip Online is a bi-weekly video and audio podcast with a goal to offer hope and help for parents and families by shedding light on mental well-being through ongoing discussions with mental health experts.  New episodes launch every other Thursday. 

Our hosts, Brian Dunn and Wally Smith, are both pastors at StoneBridge Church who have a desire to help families have a strong foundation of mental wellness.

About our partnership with Mosaics of Mercy

We are excited to be partnering with Mosaics of Mercy whose mission is to be a hub of hope, resources, and education empowering each journey toward mental well-being.  The partnership will ensure we pick the most relevant topics facing our community as well as connect us with the right local experts to discuss these topics.

If you need to seek professional help, we encourage you to use this ministry to find a local counselor that can offer assistant.

CURRENT EPISODE

The Art of the Deal: Teen Version

Date: January 10th, 20201
Guest: Meredith Weise, Ph.D

“It’s my way or the highway” may be a battle call to some teens. Consider the value of engaging in negotiation instead of battle. Negotiation is a healthy mental exercise that benefits both teens and parents. It gives you the opportunity to learn what’s important to your teenager and why. Simply put, you’ll get to know your child better through your negotiations. Today we are going to be looking at how we as parents can help teach our teens to negotiate for what they want in a healthy way.

Our guest on this episode is Meredith Weise, Ph.D.
Meredith is a Licensed Psychologist (LP), Licensed Specialist in School Psychology (LSSP) and Board-Certified Behavior Analyst. She holds a Ph.D. in School Psychology from Louisiana State University, did her pre-doctoral internship at Nebraska Internship Consortium in Professional Psychology, Boys Town site and post-doctoral training at Aldine Independent School District. She has extensive experience working with children, teens and families and uses two evidence-based treatments in her work with tweens and teens, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and skills informed by Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).

For more information on Meredith or the Connections Child and Family Center, please visit https://connectionsfamilycenter.com/
Equip Online is in partnership with StoneBridge Church and Mosaics of Mercy.

www.gostonebridge.com
www.mosaicsofmercy.com

 

PAST EPISODES

Grief and the Holidays: The empty chair at the table

Date: December 13th, 2020
Guest: Bridget K. Caletka, LPC-S, LMHC

For those who are grieving, the holidays can be unfamiliar terrain. This time of year can be filled with fond remembrances of loved ones who are on your mind yet absent from your traditions and rituals. Acknowledging the difficulties of holidays after loss does not make a potentially difficult time any easier but preparing for the holidays by tapping into helpful coping strategies may provide some much-needed help. Today we will be talking about those coping strategies.

Our guest on this episode is Bridget K. Caletka, LPC-S, LMHC.

Bridget received a Bachelor’s degree summa cum laude from the University of Connecticut, a Master of Education (M.Ed.) in School Counseling from the University of Massachusetts, Boston, and a Certificate of Advanced Graduate Studies (C.A.G.S.) in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Messiah College. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor (LPC-S) in Texas, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in New York, a National Certified Counselor and a Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor (CCMHC) and Board Certified Coach (BCC) through the National Board of Certified Counselors (NBCC).

Bridget’s particular focus is journeying with grieving clients. As a Certified Compassionate Bereavement Care Provider® she helps clients with end of life issues and those coping with serious or chronic illnesses. She provides crisis intervention for individuals and organizations in the aftermath of tragedies, such as the sudden death of an employee or a loved one.

For more information on Bridge or Forge My Path, please visit https://www.forgemypath.com/

Equip Online is in partnership with StoneBridge Church and Mosaics of Mercy.

www.gostonebridge.com
www.mosaicsofmercy.com

 

EPISODE RESOURCES

Forge My Path website

Facebook Page

 

Books:

 

On Grief and Grieving – by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross 

Companioning the Bereaved – by Alan Wofelt

Healing Your Grieving Heart – There are various versions for this, one for parents, one for teens, one for kids, and one for spouse loss. There is also a companion guide with 100 practical ideas. All excellent.

Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief – by Joanne Cacciatore

Grieving Is Loving – companion piece to Bearing the Unbearable – by Joanne Cacciatore (to be released on Dec 8th 2020)

Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief – by David Kessler

A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss – by Jerry Sittster (faith based)

A Grief Observed – C.S. Lewis (faith based)

 

Other Resources: 

SAMHSA’s National Helpline – 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

Bo’s Place: https://www.bosplace.org/en/

Center for Loss & Life Transition: https://www.centerforloss.com

Companioning Model in a PDF: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5126aabee4b0633b1266f555/t/5925e658f5e2313305a4282c/1495656024162/TENENTS+OF+COMPANIONING.pdf 

Mourner’s Bill of Rights in a PDF: https://www.centerforloss.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/MBR.pdf 

MISS Foundation: (find a Certified Compassionate Bereavement Care provider) https://missfoundation.org

American Counseling Association: https://www.counseling.org/knowledge-center/mental-health-resources/grief-and-loss-resources

The Parent Advocate: Mental Health Medication for Kids

Date: November 13th, 2020
Guest: Bibilola Ladipo-Ajayi, Licensed Pharmacist

As a parent of a child with a behavioral or emotional disorder, you may be feeling overwhelmed as you try to help your child cope with their problems. There are numerous ways your child’s mental health can be managed, such as through medication or through interventions such as play therapy, parent-child therapy, family therapy, or individual talk therapy. Medications should fit a child’s circumstances and be part of a plan that includes other therapies. Today we will be talking about helping parents advocate for their kids with medication for mental health.

Our guest on this episode is Bibilola Ladipo-Ajayi.

Bibi is a pharmacist and currently in her final year as a Graduate Marriage and Family Therapy student. As a pharmaceutical drug information specialist, she has had the privilege to serve her community by simplifying complex scientific and medical information for her patients. Coupled with her passion to help individuals build and maintain healthy lives and thriving relationships, her pharmaceutical background provides a unique opportunity to help clients understand their medication therapy as it relates to their mental health.

For more information on Bibi, please visit www.truenorthtw.com

Equip Online is in partnership with StoneBridge Church and Mosaics of Mercy. www.gostonebridge.com
www.mosaicsofmercy.com

 

My Teen is Stuck in Anxiety and Depression. What do I do?

Date: November 7th, 2020
Guest: Meredith Weise, Ph.D

Being a teenager can be tough. Their bodies and brains are changing quickly at a time when parents, teachers and peers expect a lot from them. Even before COVID-19, the mental health of our teens was an issue. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), 13.3% of U.S. kids ages 12 to 17 had at least one major depressive episode during the previous year and one-third had an anxiety disorder in their lifetime. Today we will be talking about how to distinguish between normal teen angst and anxiety or depression and what parents can do to help their kids cope. Our guest on this episode is Meredith Weise, Ph.D. Meredith is a Licensed Psychologist (LP), Licensed Specialist in School Psychology (LSSP) and Board-Certified Behavior Analyst. She holds a Ph.D. in School Psychology from Louisiana State University, did her pre-doctoral internship at Nebraska Internship Consortium in Professional Psychology, Boys Town site and post-doctoral training at Aldine Independent School District. She has extensive experience working with children, teens and families and uses two evidence-based treatments in her work with tweens and teens, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and skills informed by Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). For more information on Meredith or the Connections Child and Family Center, please visit https://connectionsfamilycenter.com/ Equip Online is in partnership with StoneBridge Church and Mosaics of Mercy. www.gostonebridge.com www.mosaicsofmercy.com

 

EPISODE RESOURCES

Forge My Path website

Facebook Page

 

Books:

 

On Grief and Grieving – by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross 

Companioning the Bereaved – by Alan Wofelt

Healing Your Grieving Heart – There are various versions for this, one for parents, one for teens, one for kids, and one for spouse loss. There is also a companion guide with 100 practical ideas. All excellent.

Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief – by Joanne Cacciatore

Grieving Is Loving – companion piece to Bearing the Unbearable – by Joanne Cacciatore (to be released on Dec 8th 2020)

Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief – by David Kessler

A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss – by Jerry Sittster (faith based)

A Grief Observed – C.S. Lewis (faith based)

 

Other Resources: 

SAMHSA’s National Helpline – 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

Bo’s Place: https://www.bosplace.org/en/

Center for Loss & Life Transition: https://www.centerforloss.com

Companioning Model in a PDF: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5126aabee4b0633b1266f555/t/5925e658f5e2313305a4282c/1495656024162/TENENTS+OF+COMPANIONING.pdf 

Mourner’s Bill of Rights in a PDF: https://www.centerforloss.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/MBR.pdf 

MISS Foundation: (find a Certified Compassionate Bereavement Care provider) https://missfoundation.org

American Counseling Association: https://www.counseling.org/knowledge-center/mental-health-resources/grief-and-loss-resources

Does My Child have OCD?

Date: October 29th, 2020
Guest: Joy Ryan, Licensed Professional Counselor, Registered Play Therapist (RPT)

In this episode: OCD is often incorrectly portrayed in the media as merely an obsession with cleanliness, but in reality, it’s a deeply misunderstood condition that can wreak havoc on daily childhood activities like playing with friends, going to school, or enjoying hobbies. Today we’ll be talking about OCD as it related to our kids and how we as parents can help them.

Our guest on this episode is Joy Ryan.

Joy is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and Registered Play Therapist (RPT). She holds a master’s degree in counseling from Sam Houston State University and an additional master’s degree in Christian Education from Southwestern Theological Seminary. Her professional counseling experience has included working with school-age children using play therapy to address trauma, anxiety, depression, and adjustment to significant family changes, adolescents, and families. Joy has received training in Pediatric Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) by the International OCD Foundation through its Behavior Therapy Training Institute. Joy is currently accepting clients with OCD, Trichotillomania, Tourette’s Syndrome, and Body Dysmorphic Disorder.

For more information on Joy and her practice, Connect Psychological Services PLLC, please visit https://connectps.org/

 

How to Talk to your Kids about Sex

Date: October 15th, 2020
Guest: Cheryl Butler, Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC-S, True North

Episode Description: It’s the subject that makes parent’s sweat and kids squirm. Today we’re talking about teaching our kids about sex. Our children live in a highly sexualized society where they’re exposed to sexual language, images, and behaviors before they may be prepared to handle them. Our guests, Cheryl Butler and Dana Spinler, will be covering the why, when, and how to have “The Talk”.

Cheryl is a licensed professional counselor (LPC), counselor supervisor (LPC-S), and certified “boy mom” of twin 9-year olds and a 5-year-old. She is the founder of True North, a counseling and consulting practice in The Woodlands, Texas. Her expertise includes working with families, children and adolescents, and couples. Dana is a licensed professional counselor (LPC) with a master’s in counseling from Liberty University. She has worn many hats as a social worker, Navy wife, teacher, stay-at-home mom, homeschool educator, women’s advocate, business owner, and adoptive parent. Her style of counseling helps to build resilience through acceptance and commitment to finding hope.

For more information on Cheryl and Dana go to https://www.truenorthtw.com/

Tweetable Moments

7:41 – the world is pretty loud about it, but parents are often pretty quiet about it, and we need to reverse that

10:29 – Most kids by the age of 13 have been exposed to pornography.

12:30 – No internet filter is going to be good enough to protect our kids from exposure to sex, so we want that information coming from us, not Johnny on the school bus.

14:07 – We want our kids drinking pure water, we don’t want them drinking from the toilet.

37:07 – We feel really privileged to have these conversations with families because if not, often people end up in the counseling office, in marriages, having marital conflict surrounding sexual hurts, or individual sexual trauma, so we feel like it is such a gift. We want every parent to really be their child’s therapist.

37:30 – Oftentimes parents will be the kids to us so we can have these conversations, but we feel like God has equipped parents to do it themselves.

How to Help Your Teen Have a Positive Body Image

Date: October 1st, 2020
Guest: Brittany Gilchrist, Brittany is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Texas and is a Certified Eating Disorders Specialist (CEDS) through the International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals. 

In this episode.  So often the “comparison complex” runs the gamut from being slightly annoyed by a tiny flaw to developing an obsession with a body part that intrudes on one’s every waking moment. Today we’ll be talking about unrealistic comparisons and strategies parents can use to help their teens have a positive body image.

Equip Online is a partnership between StoneBridge Church and Mosaics of Mercy whose mission is to be a hub of hope, resources, and education empowering each journey toward mental well-being. If you need to seek professional help, we encourage you to use this ministry to find a local counselor that can offer assistant.

Tweetable Moments

5:09: It’s rare to find an individual who will look at themselves in the mirror and think, man, I just love every single aspect of my body.

5:34: Whether you’re an adult or child, we have struggles with this. We can be so negative about ourselves and embracing who we’ve been created to be.

6:11: Body image is our mental picture of our size, shape, appearance. It’s how we feel about our body. It’s how we feel in our body. It also includes our perceived belief or understanding about how other people see our bodies.

7:39: Sometimes body image can be MINIMIZED into a vanity issue or we don’t want to talk about it because we don’t want to put those ideas into our kids heads.

8:04: 80% of American girls have been on a diet before the age 10. That’s staggering.

8:40: The NYT did a study of nursing homes and interviewed people near the end of their life and what were some of the regrets that they had at the end of their life? The number one answer was the time I spent hating my body.

10:08 : If we don’t learn to love and accept ourselves, our body, who we are, it impacts your relationships too.

14:50: When individuals are looking through magazines, looking at media, there’s so much work being done, there’s so many people and teams in place to make somebody look different than they are.

15:17: Helping our young people understand that what they are looking at isn’t real, that it’s literally not a human necessarily that they’re looking at and that can be a helpful way for them to process the comparisons that they’re falling in to are maybe just largely unrealistic.

27:28 Most of the time when people do make drastic changes to their bodies, it doesn’t get them that result that they’re wanting. They’re still unsatisfied. They’re not necessarily getting the happiness or the acceptance or the love they thought was going to be on the other side.

 

How to Help My Child Manage Their Emotions

Date: September 17th, 2020
Guest: Lauren Pasqua, clinical child psychologist and the founder/director of the Connections Child and Family Center

In this episode, Brian and Wally talk to Lauren Pasqua about having realistic expectations for your child in emotional moments and practical techniques for parents to help kids self-manage their emotions.

Lauren is a clinical child psychologist and the founder/director of the Connections Child and Family Center in The Woodlands, Texas. She is passionate about working with our communities youngest members and understands that being a parent and helping children manage their emotions and big feelings is one the hardest jobs.

Equip Online is a partnership between StoneBridge Church and Mosaics of Mercy whose mission is to be a hub of hope, resources, and education empowering each journey toward mental well-being. If you need to seek professional help, we encourage you to use this ministry to find a local counselor that can offer assistant.

For more information, please visit www.equiponlinepodcast.com

Tweetable Moments

4:40 – 4:59
Big emotions – Big feelings in kids. I like to give a framework to understand where those feelings are coming from and what is actually realistic to expect of your child in those situations.

9:49 – 9:59
Kids capacity to manage their feelings, to manage their behavior fluctuates throughout the day, from day to day. It depends on a lot of different factors like sleep, appetite, stress.

14:36 – 14:40
Self-regulation is something that develops over a life-span, even into adulthood.

14:42 – 14:53
School-age kids and younger really don’t have that full capacity for self-regulation or self-management and they need us to work with them.

20:21 – 20:28
Emotional intelligence and social intelligence, both of those interpersonal skills are more predictive of long-term success.

Techniques

21:18 – Regulate yourself: if we go up, our kids go up
22:26 – Name it to tame it (label the child’s feelings)
26:22 – The Coping Box
29:23 – Bibliotherapy (book therapy)

 

A Family's Journey Towards Mental Well-Being

Date: September 3, 2020
Guest: Sherry and Chris Burkhard, Executive Director, Mosaics of Mercy, Mosaics of Mercy

In this episode, Brian and Wally talk to Sherry and Chris Burkhard about expectancy vs. expectations, getting the family back into alignment when a family member hits a bump in the road and being authentic with others about your life.

How to Deal With Financial Stress as a Family

Date: August 20, 2020
Guest: Cheryl Butler, Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC-S, True North

In this episode, Brian and Wally talk to Cheryl Bulter about the impact financial stress has on families.  She shares ways that a family can not just overcome the burden of financial stress but can be a stronger family after walking through it.