A partnership between StoneBridge Church & Mosaics of Mercy

Equip Online is a bi-weekly video and audio podcast with a goal to offer hope and help for parents and families by shedding light on mental well-being through ongoing discussions with mental health experts.  New episodes launch every other Thursday. 

Our hosts, Brian Dunn and Wally Smith, are both pastors at StoneBridge Church who have a desire to help families have a strong foundation of mental wellness.

About our partnership with Mosaics of Mercy

We are excited to be partnering with Mosaics of Mercy whose mission is to be a hub of hope, resources, and education empowering each journey toward mental well-being.  The partnership will ensure we pick the most relevant topics facing our community as well as connect us with the right local experts to discuss these topics.

If you need to seek professional help, we encourage you to use this ministry to find a local counselor that can offer assistant.

CURRENT EPISODE

How to Talk to your Kids about Sex

Date: October 15th, 2020
Guest: Cheryl Butler, Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC-S, True North

Episode Description: It’s the subject that makes parent’s sweat and kids squirm. Today we’re talking about teaching our kids about sex. Our children live in a highly sexualized society where they’re exposed to sexual language, images, and behaviors before they may be prepared to handle them. Our guests, Cheryl Butler and Dana Spinler, will be covering the why, when, and how to have “The Talk”.

Cheryl is a licensed professional counselor (LPC), counselor supervisor (LPC-S), and certified “boy mom” of twin 9-year olds and a 5-year-old. She is the founder of True North, a counseling and consulting practice in The Woodlands, Texas. Her expertise includes working with families, children and adolescents, and couples. Dana is a licensed professional counselor (LPC) with a master’s in counseling from Liberty University. She has worn many hats as a social worker, Navy wife, teacher, stay-at-home mom, homeschool educator, women’s advocate, business owner, and adoptive parent. Her style of counseling helps to build resilience through acceptance and commitment to finding hope.

For more information on Cheryl and Dana go to https://www.truenorthtw.com/

Tweetable Moments

7:41 – the world is pretty loud about it, but parents are often pretty quiet about it, and we need to reverse that

10:29 – Most kids by the age of 13 have been exposed to pornography.

12:30 – No internet filter is going to be good enough to protect our kids from exposure to sex, so we want that information coming from us, not Johnny on the school bus.

14:07 – We want our kids drinking pure water, we don’t want them drinking from the toilet.

37:07 – We feel really privileged to have these conversations with families because if not, often people end up in the counseling office, in marriages, having marital conflict surrounding sexual hurts, or individual sexual trauma, so we feel like it is such a gift. We want every parent to really be their child’s therapist.

37:30 – Oftentimes parents will be the kids to us so we can have these conversations, but we feel like God has equipped parents to do it themselves.

PAST EPISODES

How to Help Your Teen Have a Positive Body Image

Date: October 1st, 2020
Guest: Brittany Gilchrist, Brittany is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Texas and is a Certified Eating Disorders Specialist (CEDS) through the International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals. 

In this episode.  So often the “comparison complex” runs the gamut from being slightly annoyed by a tiny flaw to developing an obsession with a body part that intrudes on one’s every waking moment. Today we’ll be talking about unrealistic comparisons and strategies parents can use to help their teens have a positive body image.

Equip Online is a partnership between StoneBridge Church and Mosaics of Mercy whose mission is to be a hub of hope, resources, and education empowering each journey toward mental well-being. If you need to seek professional help, we encourage you to use this ministry to find a local counselor that can offer assistant.

Tweetable Moments

5:09: It’s rare to find an individual who will look at themselves in the mirror and think, man, I just love every single aspect of my body.

5:34: Whether you’re an adult or child, we have struggles with this. We can be so negative about ourselves and embracing who we’ve been created to be.

6:11: Body image is our mental picture of our size, shape, appearance. It’s how we feel about our body. It’s how we feel in our body. It also includes our perceived belief or understanding about how other people see our bodies.

7:39: Sometimes body image can be MINIMIZED into a vanity issue or we don’t want to talk about it because we don’t want to put those ideas into our kids heads.

8:04: 80% of American girls have been on a diet before the age 10. That’s staggering.

8:40: The NYT did a study of nursing homes and interviewed people near the end of their life and what were some of the regrets that they had at the end of their life? The number one answer was the time I spent hating my body.

10:08 : If we don’t learn to love and accept ourselves, our body, who we are, it impacts your relationships too.

14:50: When individuals are looking through magazines, looking at media, there’s so much work being done, there’s so many people and teams in place to make somebody look different than they are.

15:17: Helping our young people understand that what they are looking at isn’t real, that it’s literally not a human necessarily that they’re looking at and that can be a helpful way for them to process the comparisons that they’re falling in to are maybe just largely unrealistic.

27:28 Most of the time when people do make drastic changes to their bodies, it doesn’t get them that result that they’re wanting. They’re still unsatisfied. They’re not necessarily getting the happiness or the acceptance or the love they thought was going to be on the other side.

 

How to Help My Child Manage Their Emotions

Date: September 17th, 2020
Guest: Lauren Pasqua, clinical child psychologist and the founder/director of the Connections Child and Family Center

In this episode, Brian and Wally talk to Lauren Pasqua about having realistic expectations for your child in emotional moments and practical techniques for parents to help kids self-manage their emotions.

Lauren is a clinical child psychologist and the founder/director of the Connections Child and Family Center in The Woodlands, Texas. She is passionate about working with our communities youngest members and understands that being a parent and helping children manage their emotions and big feelings is one the hardest jobs.

Equip Online is a partnership between StoneBridge Church and Mosaics of Mercy whose mission is to be a hub of hope, resources, and education empowering each journey toward mental well-being. If you need to seek professional help, we encourage you to use this ministry to find a local counselor that can offer assistant.

For more information, please visit www.equiponlinepodcast.com

Tweetable Moments

4:40 – 4:59
Big emotions – Big feelings in kids. I like to give a framework to understand where those feelings are coming from and what is actually realistic to expect of your child in those situations.

9:49 – 9:59
Kids capacity to manage their feelings, to manage their behavior fluctuates throughout the day, from day to day. It depends on a lot of different factors like sleep, appetite, stress.

14:36 – 14:40
Self-regulation is something that develops over a life-span, even into adulthood.

14:42 – 14:53
School-age kids and younger really don’t have that full capacity for self-regulation or self-management and they need us to work with them.

20:21 – 20:28
Emotional intelligence and social intelligence, both of those interpersonal skills are more predictive of long-term success.

Techniques

21:18 – Regulate yourself: if we go up, our kids go up
22:26 – Name it to tame it (label the child’s feelings)
26:22 – The Coping Box
29:23 – Bibliotherapy (book therapy)

 

A Family's Journey Towards Mental Well-Being

Date: September 3, 2020
Guest: Sherry and Chris Burkhard, Executive Director, Mosaics of Mercy, Mosaics of Mercy

In this episode, Brian and Wally talk to Sherry and Chris Burkhard about expectancy vs. expectations, getting the family back into alignment when a family member hits a bump in the road and being authentic with others about your life.

How to Deal With Financial Stress as a Family

Date: August 20, 2020
Guest: Cheryl Butler, Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC-S, True North

In this episode, Brian and Wally talk to Cheryl Bulter about the impact financial stress has on families.  She shares ways that a family can not just overcome the burden of financial stress but can be a stronger family after walking through it.