I went to a beautiful wedding this last Saturday. The bride looked gorgeous, the groom could dance and a great time was had by all. Perhaps the best part was knowing that these two, so devoted in their walk with Christ, were coming together to build their relationship on that firm foundation.

The pastor spoke in the ceremony about the well-known portion of Ephesians chapter 5

Ephesians 5:22

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,


Instead of focusing on the roles specifically the pastor mentioned that sometimes we get too tied up in that thought process, thinking of our roles and how we perform them.  But we are not called to love a role, you love a person. So we are called to love that person despite how well they perform their role.


Are you so focused on the ability of someone to perform their role that you are distracted from loving the person?