I know this couple. The husband can be quite….”difficult.” Approximately one year ago, his wife determined that whenever he was in one of his difficult moods, she would make a concerted effort to say “I love you” and to treat him with tenderness. Those of us who know this couple have seen a tremendous difference in the attitude of this husband since that time. He seems much more content, there is a gentleness that wasn’t there in years past, they act like newlyweds, hold hands, and he opens doors for her, etc…  It challenges those of us who know this couple in our own marriage relationships today.

I was sharing this story with the creative arts team one saturday not too long ago. The next day one of the team members” came to me and said, “Hey, I tried that “I love you approach” with my spouse. Three times during the day we had these encounters. By the early evening my spouse’s attitude had dramatically changed and suggested that we go out “on a date.” That love thing really works!”

Love is a verb.
Learning to love.


1 Corinthians 13:4a, 7
Love is patient, love is kind
bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Proverbs 15:1
1 A gentle answer turns away wrath,
But a harsh word stirs up anger.